In this day and age, trends are perhaps the most influential things we can come across. A vast variety of respected and popular publications, online or otherwise, have an undeniable effect on our everyday lives, influencing what and when we eat, how we work out, how we sleep, and what products, supplements, and services we choose. Sometimes, these trends are truly useful, with facts and science behind them, other times they are built on completely unsubstantiated claims made by people trying to sell more of their - let's say it as it is - snake oil. And sometimes, these trends can have unexpected effects - ruining our health, our lives, and our relationships. One of the latter is the concept of "microcheating".


It is hard to decide whether microcheating" is actually a thing or not. As per the definition of this activity published in several influential online lifestyle magazines, "microcheating" refers to the small affectionate gestures and behaviors that fall outside the boundaries of a monogamous relationship. Microcheating is said to slowly erode the monogamous relationship between significant others, planting a seed of doubt in the hearts and souls of the partners. And trust, once destroyed, is hard to build back up.

The Signs

If one of the partners feels uneasy to tell the other about meeting a person of the opposite sex - a coworker, a friend, and such - is considered by many a sign of microcheating. And so is dressing differently when preparing to hang out with that person, constantly liking and commenting on their social media updates, and so are many others. For some, these hardly reach the threshold of being considered anything beyond innocent fun and banter. For others, these small signs can be a reason for losing a bit of their confidence and trust in their partner with every single occasion.

Is it even a thing?

Microcheating shows up in many publications online, described as another example of bad behavior mostly specific to men. According to blogger and dating coach Harris O'Malley, though, it is nothing but a big steaming pile of bullcrap. While the boundaries are different in every single relationship, as in different people drawing the line at completely different points between innocent fun and cheating, actual "cheating" is almost universally considered to be way beyond what most people would consider normal behavior.

It's like saying that the partner interacting with people of the opposite sex outside a monogamous relationship (which fits the description of microcheating, by the way) would translate into cheating without even knowing it. The so-called "signs" of microcheating are in the overwhelming majority of cases nothing but normal human behavior. And in the remaining small percentage of the cases could simply be cheating - with nothing "micro" to it.

Of course, many of the "signs" enumerated above can point to actual cheating - the actual exchange of bodily fluids, mind you - but most of the times, they are nothing but the overreactions of insecure partners about their significant others' interactions outside a monogamous relationship, that, according to some, should mean fondness, friendship, banter, and fun to be had with the "legal" partner, and nobody else.